she says she kissed a girl, dad didn't like it

Ok. So the songs I listen to are not G rated.

Amara and I tend to share the same taste in music. So when my 6 year old is in the mom-mobile with me, I don't flinch to change the station.

But when Amara decided this week to belt out her best Lady Gaga, Dad2Amara had had enough.

It came out of nowhere.
Let's have some fun. This beat is sick. I wanna take a ride on your disco stick.
Oh boy.

How do I explain to Dad2Amara that it's an innocent song? Amara and I have loved Lady Gaga since she showed up on So You Think You Can Dance last year. She was brilliant on stage!

But Dad2Amara reminds me that this isn't the first time Amara has sung "questionable" lyrics.

Remember Sexyback?
Dirty babe, you see these shackles baby. I'm your slave.
Oh and did I mention she was fond of a certain Katy Perry tune?
I kissed a girl, and I liked it.
As a responsible mother, I am very mindful of both the subject matter and lyrics that Amara may be hearing.

But I know she does not truly understand what she's saying.

I do have limits, such as her not listening to pop songs about Helen Keller.

But what happens when Amara is on a school bus? Or in someone else's vehicle?

I mean, I was ten when my mom let me buy the album with Salt N Pepa's Push It.

And what about those Kidz Bop cd's? You know, the cd's where kids sing songs like Britney's Spears' "Baby One More Time." Yea, that doesn't strike me as "appropriate" either.

So I'm trying here. I'm trying to balance good mom with cool mom.

And I'd like to keep control over my radio dial.

Quandry. Ugh.


  1. While you are leaps and bounds ahead of me in parenthood, I believe your approach is sound.
    I don't plan to censor any particular words, music, or books when those stages come, lest it fuel my daughter's zeal for the forbidden. Maybe I'm naive, but I'm hoping I can just redirect her questionable behavior, or if she persists, have a discussion about why some people might take offense.
    I think it's cool that you're staying cool.

  2. It was awesome when Amara sang Sexy Back. She is so damn cute. Its a tough call - obviously she doesnt know what it means and if you censor she will just make a point to listen. I remember when my mother broke my Pearl Jam and Nirvana CD's. I just bought new ones - but hid these ones better. - Jaci

  3. For some reason, my kids love "Raining Blood" on Guitar Hero 3. It's an awful song, but they are drawn to the outrageous title.

  4. Yeah, Little Bear is the same way1 I am more of an alternative or classic rock person myself, but Little Bear hears that kind of music from Diana and Monkeyboy. I hate the Hellen Keller song, but she's picked it up and she loves to sing it! Also the Hotel Motel Holiday Inn song, etc! Oh well... they probably have no idea what the songs mean, and I guess they can be taught not to sing those songs at school or in front of other kids, right??? I hope??

  5. Thanks all. I know she doesn't understand the lyrics but it doesn't mean it makes it easier on Dad2Amara :) He's still angry any time one of these songs come on the radio!

  6. Sweetie Pie's two favorites right now are Low (he heard it at summer camp) and Enter Sandman by Metallica. At least he is diverse!

  7. LOL! My kids were singing womanizer womanizer womanizer when that song was on major rotation. I don't think anything of it b/c they usually muck up the words. That'll probably start changing now that my 8 y.o. is getting more observant.


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