giving thanks and love
I bought an artificial tree this week and picked up a gift for Amara. Slowly I’m getting into the Christmas spirit. But I try to fight it as much as I can until Black Friday.
While I’m not a Thanksgiving fan, I do think the holiday deserves its due. Saying I am thankful for my divorce might land me on the “naughty” list. But it’s not for reasons you may think. I have made no secret that this has been a challenging year, which has led me to reevaluate the relationships in my life. But divorce isn’t the end of love, but the end of a marriage. It’s not the end of trust, but perhaps the end of a friendship. And my divorce has taught me so much.
To my family, particularly Aunt2Amara and also my uncle: Thank you for supporting me and Amara. You could have easily taken sides or passed judgment, but you did not. I am truly grateful.
To one of my dearest friends, John: I may not always agree with your so-called brilliant ideas, but I know you will never ditch me. And you can’t get rid of me.
To Jason: Your inappropriate jokes always brighten my day. Small time divorce lawyers have nothing on you.
To Carrie, Chrissy, Stacy, Natalie, Charlene, Whitney, Tara, and Molly: You are the best friends for which a girl could ever ask. You showed me that I can have it all. I can be nurturing Mom2Amara while being a courageous woman able to chart new territory. You gave me the confidence to speak out.
To Heidi, Lissa, Kelly, Melissa, Allison and Brooke: You are all strong, independent women. In times of crisis, our creativity can determine alternatives to option one and option two. Together, our friendship found a solution for penguins mating in the autumn.
To Dana, Michelle, and Megan: Thank you for letting me know I’m not alone. Thank you for proving I could make it through the gut-wrenching sorrow. I hope one day I may be able to repay you for your compassion.
To Emily, Amy and Mike: I have become a better listener because of you. Doors may close but others have opened. You have given me an opportunity to heal.
So what does it all come down to?
Amara and I lead blessed lives. I treasure all with whom we have connected. Today, Amara and I will spend on our own. But know we are celebrating all of you and will hug each of you the next time we are together again.